welcome to 45 and fabulous!

i seem to be always in front of the computer most of the day writing email, dabbling with facebook, listening to pandora and tapping on my iPhone that seems to be glued to my hand despite my occupation as a trainer. on november 30th, 2009, i've finally manifested my idea of really getting CYBER OUT THERE and officially 'gave birth' to this blog, '45 and fabulous'.

this will be a forum where i'll share my thoughts, actions, contacts and experiences about being in my mid 40's and feeling and looking better than ever. never in my life have i been more fit, more ripped, sexier and, best of all, wiser. was it just my divorce? i don't think i can give my ex that much credit! that said, i'm experiencing the magic of getting older but better...a truth not often burnished nor an ideal upheld in our youth-crazed world.

being a gym owner, i also see LOTS of other women in this stage in their lives--mothers, divorcees, cougars, MILFS, beverly hills moms...you name it.. but all of them at the prime of their lives-- i'll be sharing and featuring their own ideas, passions, secrets, tricks and tips to staying foxy in their 40s.

ever been to paris and noticed how stylishly hot their older women seemed? think lena olin, charlotte rampling... domestically, i think of women aging not just gracefully but incredibly sexily like halle berry, sarah jessica parker, cate blanchett. i'd like to see this project as a tiny nudge in the right direction of getting our society to look at women at this age group a bit differently.

Friday, December 11, 2009

stand by yourself!




stand by your man....i don't think so! jenny sanford, the smart, independent wife of that philandering, "appalachian-trail" galivanting gov, has filed for deeee-vorce! unlike elin woods who is being paid VAST sums to stand by her man, jenny is giving him the boot. spiked stilettos?!

some (mainly guys it seems) say that elin is just as much a prostitute for accepting payments to maintain the tiger marketing juggernaut. i would say that, elin, a young, broken-hearted woman just got her romantic notions of sweet marriage shattered, maybe irrevocably so; and in accepting the millions, she is staking her independence and, ultimately, laughing (let's hope!) all the way to the bank.

whatever route these spurned women take--standing or not standing by your man, take the high road, take the money (hey why not?!) and remain gloriously regal above the seemy fray. emotional health, balance and stability are paramount.

Saturday, December 5, 2009

there are NO EXCUSES!



this is my very pregnant friend, corrie safris nolan, who at 9 months preggers, hits a veddy, veddy consistent forehand. so consistent, we call her 'hewitt.' for those crinkling your foreheads right now, this allusion refers to the tasmanian devil, lleyton hewitt, who ALWAYS gets the ball back.

corrie is indefatigable, hitting tennis balls at least 3x per week in addition to her other physical activities like yoga and pilates and being the writer's muse that she is to her husband, ken.

i love seeing pregnant women in the gym working out and continuing their lives despite the extra pounds and heaving about with what must be an unwieldy, ever-growing belly. it truly is amazing and inspiring!

so, if you're feeling lazy, think of corrie and get back on the court! i'll report more on corrie as she progresses. her post-natal recovery and journey back to her pre-pregnancy form will be a lot quicker given active lifestyle.

Thursday, December 3, 2009

you need a good golf swing girl!

what was tiger thinking???

i'm taking golf lessons twice weekly and, in light of this week's salacious news on the world's #1 squeaky clean golfer, the minute technicalities of perfecting my golf swing have taken on greater import. hmmmmmm.....

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

sometimes you just need a break!

my sporty spice lifestyle finally caught up with me at 525am. i couldn't believe it was time to get up. i felt like dead weight. there was no way in this world for me to get up and train a client in an hour. and then after that, another run??!!? OMG...

i cancelled my client AND my run (somehow the ability to text remains in the foggiest of states) and found myself in the same exact position three hours later, this time much better rested.

fortunately, i was able to muster enough energy to later play an energetic 2 hours of tennis hitting forehands and backhands.

thankfully, this day also coincided with another one of my dear clients treating me to a korean spa and massage treatment with a sushi dinner afterwards. this could not have come at a better time!

so, the lesson here is you gotta listen to what your body is telling you. at mid-age (sounds awful doesn't it?), your body has experienced a lot of life and extra care must be given to it if you want it to be dependable! i'm sure this day of 'taking it easy' i.e. no training, no lifting, no running... just tennis, some work, jacuzzi, massage, sushi and sake, will do wonders for me the rest of the week (like tomorrow) when once again, i'll push it like i'm vying for the next olympic berth.

so, if you can pull it off and sleep in instead....just do it!

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

running for non-runners

i woke up this morning refreshed and ready for an active day. energy begets energy. kinda like money begets money but in my case got gobs of the previous over the latter. i had made plans to go for a run with another gym-goer, denise, who i saw lifting the other day with her boyfriend, trainer, pook, at the gym.

we met at the TRAIN parking lot at 745am and planned on running for an hour--turning around at the half hour point. running is not really fun--not like shopping at a 90% off designer shoe sale AT ALL. therefore, whenever i find someone who is halfway willing to run with me, i immediately schedule a time and place--not one of those 'ya, let's run....for sure....' and then the run never happens.

it was a chilly morning here in l.a., like 60's, which feels frigid here. i ran with my tennis outfit on (as i was hitting later) and a t-shirt; denise had on a hoodie and capri's toting a water bottle. i like to run minimally with only a good pair of running shoes (imperative!) that has with it one of those key pouches i bought for $8 that interlaces on top of your shoe. because it stretches, a credit card handily fits in! dangerous...yes, but very handy. anyhoo, no keys or credit cards needed for this run. it was just a quickie run and sorta testing each other's fitness level out--at least for me. it's important to find a running partner that's at your level. otherwise, you might as well be running solo.

i like to run slowly and steadily and learned from a previous BF that the key is to keep loose and keep the feet close to the ground. serious runners reading this may have more technically correct thoughts (chime in, please!) i just know that basically ANYTHING you do is better done when you're loose and relaxed (like sex!)

i like to run scenic (translation: eye candy, window shopping) routes too. so we ran west on melrose avenue passing urth cafe (very entourage), pacific design center up to santa monica blvd through beverly hills. denise had to stop and walk a bit after a running spell which gave me an indication of her running fitness (not very) but it was fine with me. i'm no major runner myself and i was just glad to have someone to run with and ya, ok, the walking rests were NOT TERRIBLE!

the most immediate sensation i got was the getting rid of the chill and actually ENJOYING the slight nip of the air. it just makes running that much more enjoyable. i could see myself running more this fall. trying to stay mindful during the run, i concentrated on my breath which i like to time with my cadence. i like to exhale audibly and then inhale with each 3 or 4 steps and then repeat. at the same time, you really smell your surroundings. most were pleasant--even the mulch that is seasonably spread around lawns at this time of year had that musty, organic smell that connected you with the earth. the only foul smell, really, was the exhaust fume of ONE car that likely needed a valve job or something. i also noticed a lot of other runners, many women, which made me feel a sense of community.

best of all, after our first joint run of maybe 2 miles, we felt GREAT. there's nothing like putting in a good cardio workout first thing in the morning to make you feel like you're capable of tackling ANYTHING that day. plus, one of the YOUNGER clients at the gym told her trainer, antony, that she wanted legs like mine! i could've kissed her!

so, some quick amateur tips to get non-runners to give running a go:
1) find a willing partner to go with you
2) assess that partner's running skills. ask him or her how often and how far they run...easy.
3) plan your initial run on a simple, straightforward, do-able, pleasant route. you gotta make it fun!
4) make sure you have GOOD running shoes on
5) don't overwear clothing; you'll warm up quickly
6) don't worry about toting water with you; hydrate before and after your run
7) if anything hurts in a distressing way, stop! walk it out
8) go slowly and steadily; it's not a race
9) keep loose and relaxed
10) stay mindful of your breathing, your surroundings
11) smile and know that you're doing something good for yourself
12) wait for the compliments to come!!!
13) feel great!

i'll post pix of my shoe thingy next time!~ denise and i loved our intro run this morning, we're doing it for the rest of the mornings this week. if you're reading this and you're near TRAIN, come join us! we'll start our run about 745am and be back in an hour.

Monday, November 30, 2009

my virgin post

ok....so i set up the blog but i'll actually write a REAL post sometime tomorrow. the reason is because it's 1011pm and i need to get to sleep. THAT, my friends, is the ultimate secret to staying fabulous in your 40's. one needs to get as much sleep as possible. it truly is the best beauty tip in the book.

good night my new online friends!

i'll check in tomorrow after i feel prettier --> after 8 hours of deep dark sleep.